Interview With Worship Leader Steve Fee

Gotta say, after reading not even half of this posting, I want nothing to do with you Christians. I had heard that there was some big wig rockstar who got busted for banging someone else, and that there was a message board reaming him and ridiculing him over it.

Who the (obscenity) do you people think you are? You’ll all burn in hell with me. Your sins are far worse than that of a humbled man – how dare any of you to judge this man.

Didn’t you send your precious savior to be completely tortured and hung for hours to find some hope? Or was that “beating to a pulp” only for those of you who have ever jerked off at your mother’s Cosmo magazine?

I hope if Fee ever cheats again, he screws every one of you up your rear ends for the hateful comments on this board.

For those who said no wrong, this is not for you. As far as the rest of you, you’ve caused your precious Heaven one less soul – which is a shame because I was getting quite interested. I will have nothing to do with a group who hangs their “brethren” out to dry as you’ve done on this message board.

Anyone know the details? Anyone care to share?

Eric,

What a brave little man you are hiding behind your keyboard. You have any evidence of your slanderous accusations? I didn’t think so.

Matt
How did he find out about her and him and is she living in Fl. now.

I didn’t even read the top twenty comments and I can see that we are pretty split up in discussion. We have many opinions, and we should respect each others voice. Even though we do argue, as brothers and sisters in Christ, let’s try to be understanding. There’s no point to get theological on each other, using Bible verses for/against each other, because I know that we do it out of anger and frustration and not of love. If you really want to get detailed about what the Bible or studies say, go ahead. But I think that Jesus just wants our love, and when things go wrong, that’s life and a whole lot more of words I don’t want/need to express. Jesus and love is something I have come to “know” all my life, but this summer I really got to experience the fullness of it (well, as full as I can manage, for now, and I’ll be honest I’m just turning 18. And I’m telling you guys so maybe you guys would fit my age with what I have to say and see others around you with my age or however.)

I read a few comments in the middle, and I can also say that many of our words are of the same essence of Truth, and keep encouraging, to Steve, and to each other. (I just found this page by mistake while looking up one of his songs. I didn’t know this happened to him. But God loves always and you better believe it!)

As what this guy says, let’s give this a rest and pray for Steve.
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B August 23, 2010 1:54 pm
Impressive.
You people have spent 4 months talking about how sinful a man is.
You all must be theologians.
1 Corinthians 10:12 – for the perfect peeps
1 Timothy 2:11-12 – for the big mouth ladies (J/K… but seriously)
James 5:16 – for anybody who thinks this guy can be restored, pray for him. Give this stuff a rest…
Love, B”

And as for Chris (Sept. 21), the only word I can really give you is “love”. Love is everything, and it is why we won’t join you in hell (and why you have a chance to not be there either. But that’s something I can’t explain to you, so go find it. :] ) Yes, some people have said some things that didn’t need to be said, but many people want to support Steve. I know we are all judgemental, but God should be able to understand us (of course he should be able to!) and he loves us, so he would forgive because he knows what we feel. But I don’t want to keep going. I feel like I’m gonna say something wrong. But hey, you should know that people are different and have different view/opinions. So you could try to understand with everyone too.

To Steve Fee, you are not alone and many people are encouraging you. You are loved. :]

And I want to say that most of this is just my opinion. So if any of you think differently, that’s fine. God just please love all of us.

Andrew

It doesn’t matter what we humans think. The only thing that matters is TRUTH and what God decides.

But what is the truth Leah. You don’t know it and no one else does either.

THIS. IS. RIDICULOUS. Folks, listen to yourselves. and after you do that, go read a different Chris’s comment on September 21. People before me have said this on this blog and ya’ll have just ignored them. Don’t do that again. I greatly respected Steve for his personal insight for me as well as his worship leading. Because of that, but even more so because I believe that he does have a relationship with Jesus Christ, I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt that he is working his butt off to work through this with EVERYONE IT CONCERNS. But you know who it doesn’t concern? US. As much of a bummer as it is, whether you are rooting for Steve or throwing him under the bus, IT’S NOT OUR DEAL guys! Let Steve work through his own junk and you work out yours. haha what if he started a blog about all of you? I have a feeling that would not go over so well. So, if i might say so, keep your opinion to yourself, don’t gossip, and PRAY. that’s right…PRAY. what? take Steve and his family before God? …fancy that.

Chris Royer

How about the husband who Fee destroyed his marriage and the little girl who’s mommy left daddy for Fee and now is mommyless?
Why don’t you pray for them?

yes yes, good point. Pray for them more than anything.

Honestly, this is horrible to read – all the bickering here, and the information here.

I admit, I was wanting to find out what happened. Now that I have, I am disgusted at my own interest in this.

Please pray for this man, and his wife, that reconciliation can be found. Pray for their families, this church, and all involved.

Pray for the other family that isn’t mentioned much. The one with who he committed adultery with, and her family and children.

Pray for the leaders of NPCC to continue to have wisdom to handle this in the way that God is leading them. Try not to second guess what they decided.

Throw off the gossip that is easy to participate in.

And finally, we don’t need to know all of the details. Its sufficient to know that he had an affair, and that he has stepped back from leadership to seek healing and restoration. That SHOULD be the extent of discussion.

If you are at NPCC, then email and write to the leadership if you are dissatisfied with the way that it was handled. Approach them in person, but airing it here is a bad choice in my view.

New command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. John 13:34

If these two comments were a group on Facebook…I would like them.

How about the husband who Fee destroyed his marriage and the little girl who’s mommy left daddy for Fee and now is mommyless?

I’m sure God is standing up applauding this whole thing. I’ll bet He’s never been more proud of His people.

To those of you who think you have a right to rebuke merely because you are a Christian, I won’t say that you don’t, but I will say that you can’t without love. Even if you speak TRUTH and it’s not in love, scripture says you’re a resounding gong and clanging cymbal…. just making a loud noise.

So I hope that each of you have personally called him to rebuke him, or are you just “biblically” rebuking him by telling us about it, because of course that’s the method Jesus gave us in Matthew 18- “If your brother sins against you, tell everyone but hims how wrong it is and how he probably isn’t a Christian if he messed up big. But never call him because, he’s finished. God doesn’t restore those who have sinned…ever. And if you show your brother grace, then you’re just a weak christian who probably doesn’t read the bible”

So listen, I implore you (i’m not being sarcastic) rebuke Steve Fee as much as you want AFTER you prayed for him with a sincere heart centered and rooted in love for him and his family, the kindness that leads to repentance, and the knowledge that rebuking for the most part is a private matter between trustworthy peers who probably wouldn’t discuss these things in a public forum. I mean, no one in my accountability group would go on Facebook and have a discussion about my sin and call it rebuking. They would rebuke me and then stick around for the repentance and restoration process. I’m sure none of you have any interest in that though.

But hey, I’m sure there will be a comment following talking about the rights you have to continually talk to us about Fee’s sin (and it was, I’m not belittling it) and i’m sure that you’ll feel great after you’ve made your points. But I ABSOLUTELY sure that none of you will try to contact him and tell him you love him, but what he did was wrong, but that you are willing to walk with him through his repentance. I have not done so, so I am not going to bash him if I can’t help restore him. I pray that all of your accountability partners are more loyal than all of you.

What he did was very wrong and confusing to the world and he will rightfully have to suffer the consequences of his actions. But I pray to the God of restoration (who’s already forgiven him… go figure) that He would restore his family, change his heart and that he would cling to the grace that saved me from my sin. Where sin abounds, grace abounds all the more. Praise God.

Well, have it “people of God”… I know you’re just itching to make a point…. without prayer.

You can’t rebuke someone who doesn’t even know you. That’s rediculous. LET ME SHARE ONE THING WITH ALL OF YOU GUYS: I am only 18. I was ‘saved’ at the age of 9. I didn’t live a Godly life. I went down a path of drugs, sex, and alcohol. Until I was fifteen. GOD’s spirit was inside of me… “I”, check that out, “I” ignored it. One day God got my attention in a church service. I went to church on Sunday and did this the other six days of the week. But He, in HIS timing, got my attention. AND GUESS WHAT: The fact that JESUS CHRIST died for me, WHILE I WAS A HYPOCRITE, while I WAS screwed up…. was so amazing. THAT’S WHY WE CALL IT “AMAZING” grace. And if GOD’S PEOPLE had of turned me away, or threw me out… I may not have found God’s grace when I did. I could be dead, a druggie, a drop-out. But God got my attention in a service that wasn’t much different than the one I attended every week. I was STEVE FEE. I know how it feels to carry so much guilt but not be able to get out of it. And it hurts so bad to see SO MANY PEOPLE think it is there place. GOD DOESN’T SAY, FIX YOUR LIFE THEN COME TO ME, HE SAYS COME TO ME ALL OF YOU WHO ARE BURDENED, ALL WHO NEED REST, AND I WILL GIVE YOU REST. HE —-FIXES OUR LIVES—–…….. WE CAN’T DO IT. YOU CAN’T DO IT. ONLY GOD CAN. If that’s not true, then Jesus Christ died for NOTHING. He hung on that cross for the sinner. YOU AND ME AND STEVE ARE THE SINNER. There is no measure on SIN. Have you ever lied? Your a liar then. Ever stole anything? Then your a thief. Ever lusted? Then your an adulterer. Yeah YOU, Christ died for you.

And “I” at a much younger age than most of you guys, understand that in a very real way. And if God has ever carried you through anything then you know that He has power. Let His power change Steve. Let his power change your outlook on grace. Let his power set you free from the bondage of judgement and guilt and shame and having to live a certain way. “If your alive and you’ve been set free, rise and sing, rise and sing. And if in your heart rings a melody.. rise and sing, rise and sing.” Seriously, we have hope in Christ, not damnation. Jesus WILL NEVER turn his back on us. Some of you guys are singing a melody and don’t sound like your free. Go back to the place where you have joy and hope and that was what you wanted to shout to the world. And carry that message to the broken. It’s salty, it’s contagious, and they will want it.

How can this thread still be going. Wow…

“It is therefore most godless to say that one who is baptized is still in sin, or that all his sins are not fully forgiven. For what sin is there where God is favorable and wills not to know any sin and where he wholly accepts and sancitifies the whole man?” – Luther

Faith in Christ alone heals from sin.

Thank God for His GRACE!

We all sin…every single day…in ways we don’t even fathom. We are an imperfect people…forgiven by a perfect God. You and I don’t get to treat Steve any different than ourselves…if you disagree…..you’re just wrong. Lift this dude up, love him and let it go.

Max, you are so right. This whole discussion is ridiculous.

I find it utterly pathetic and disgusting that so called Christians would sit around bashing another Christian on the internet. Yes, he made a mistake. He admitted it, he lost everything because of it and he’s trying to move on. Is he not also allowed grace and mercy? Just because he was a worship leader and his songs were played on the radio, doesn’t mean he doesn’t also deserve a second chance. Perhaps more of you should actually read your Bibles and see what God has to say about forgiveness and repentance instead of making up ridiculous standards and rules that this man must live by. You are not the ultimate judge. Steve Fee does not have to answer to any of us. The only person he must answer to is God. Sin is sin. We all do it, most of us every day. Steve’s sin is not greater than yours or mine in God’s eye. He forgives and forgets. Case closed. Your validation or recognition of his true contriteness or where his heart is, is not needed. Get over yourselves.
And for those who haven’t read your Bibles lately, which clearly is most of you:
Matthew 7:1-5

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

3″Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

yes yes, good points. however, now we are starting to bash the people who were doing the bashing in the first place…which puts us right back at square one. so why don’t we just can it?

Steve Fee is still one of the best worship leaders out there, Sorry if you are offended by his actions, I CAN MAKE THIS ONE PROMISE……THERE IS NOT ONE SINGLE PERSON OUT THERE THAT DOES NOT SIN EVERY DAY!!!!!!! The whole situation gets all screwed up when people start thinking that since you are a christian or a “worship leader” that you are no longer allowed to mess up. Well let me tell you that PEOPLE ARE WRONG!!!!! I still love fee and the whole band, they have been a huge influence on me and my other band members. I AM PRAYING FOR YOU STEVE!!!!!!! LOVE YA MAN!!!!!

Ridiculous. Chris, I’m sorry.

As Christians, we are supposed to show people God’s love. All this bickering sets a terrible example for the world and gives Christianity a bad name. Please watch the insults.

There were a lot of godly people in the bible that sinned but God restored them and continued to use them..it does go to prove that no one is perfect, no matter how godly or how close you are to God..and though Steve fee made a mistake, that doesn’t mean you should be mad at him..we are all sinners..all sin is the same……if we are going to point fingers at Steve..we should look at ourselves first, seriously..I agree with anyone on the fact that we should be praying for Steve instead of criticizing him..because I am sure he is aware of everything he’s done..and I am sure he feels bad about it.

brownsbridge church is not the same without Fee. everybody sins, we all make mistakes, and if we are going to make any kind of impact on students around the world or just at our local church, Fee band needs to be there, because its not the same, and until you have experienced their presence, don’t be so quick to judge.

You know what sets a terrible example? Not this bickering, it’s the fact that certain people have spoke the truth that, “God is not always immensely gracious” I speak in human terms of course, but so many people are still standing on the same side as Steve Fee. Call the lost over. Don’t give reasons why Jesus should be drawing the line closer to them.

It’s just sad & creepy.

Could you, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, get me the guitar tabs for Promised Land by Fee!!!! NO ONE HAS THEM AND I REALLY WANT TO LEARN HOW TO PLAY IT!!! OUR YOUTH GROUP BAND THAT I’M IN MAY BE ABLE TO DO IT IF YOU COULD PLEASE GET ME THE TABS!!!!!! if you could, or anyone if you know them. Thank you, I’d be very, very, very greatful.

congratulations. you have all out-holied someone in some way. pearls to swine.

Is this movie about FEE? I hear it’s great!

http://www.theimpostermovie.com

Kevin Max is in it (from dcTalk) and Kerry Livgren (from Kansas)

no. the movie was released a year before the affair was exposed. FEE had a 5 yr affair, he was not addicted to drugs like in the movie.

Not looking for personal information – just wondering what the future holds for the musical side of Steve Fee . I realize it is early but it feels like a big hole out there. Hope that some day he can come back and God can use him again. When you hear the music it is so powerful.

Here is a sighting of Steve from a TwitPic image. He’s back in the studio with the FEE boys working on a new record for another worship leader.

http://twitpic.com/375xsg

Hello,

As one who has listened to Steve Fee’s music and accept this young man’s desire to sing, there are several principals and points that should be addressed. As one who was called into the ministry over 24 years ago, I am STILL waiting for the Lord to open HIS doors and I know it is essential to wait on Him for as long as it takes for MY heart to be right and His name to be exalted. I have been waiting for 24 years for self to be completely removed so Christ alone can shine in my heart. I am not there yet and if it takes another 24 years, then I’m happy to wait.

I said all that to say the following: It is a tragedy to take these young singers with some ‘talent’, brainwash them into thinking they are ‘using’ their talent for the Lord, send them immediately into ministry and watch them fall. That is a sad, sad indictment against current leadership in the Church who do not understand that EVERYONE goes into the wilderness without exception.

Many get shoved into ministry positions because church bills need to get paid and/or people think they can make a living ‘selling’ some ‘talent’ they have to the world. They set themselves up for a fall and the ministers who encourage them to get up in front of the public, taking them away from the wilderness hurt them rather than help them.

To those who said we are not to ‘judge’, using Matthew or other Scriptures, my dear friends, we are told not to judge (krino in greek), but to discern (anakrino). By discerning, we see through the facade and realize that Steve Fee is only the tip of the iceberg. The lust and pride present in the so-called Christian music industry is very evident. You need not go far before you will see other young singers committing fornication.

But if Steve Fee will ever read this… if he truly is trying to make another album, someone please let him know it is a horrible mistake. He should accept his wilderness, go into obscurity, and let the Holy Spirit resurrect from the dead what satan killed through the deceitfulness of sin. Someone should let him know that at the point he does not receive the wilderness, he no longer is a minister of righteousness, but becomes an false ‘angel of light’.

To those who feel this should not be talked about publicly in Christian circles, that is not correct. Steve Fee chose to go before the public. Anyone who does that chooses the life of being in a glass fish bowl. It is NOT just between Steve Fee and God. It is between Steve Fee, God, and God’s Church, which we are. It MUST be dealt with publicly.

We should pray for Steve Fee and in praying for him, more than anything else, we should pray that he can go into the wilderness, accept the discipline of God, learn to love and be loved by his family, and forget about any kind of public life. Anything else exposes pride and hardness of heart. Please Steve, make the right decisions.

Sincerely,

John

Did Fee have a affair for five years with only the other wife or were there other women involved? Like was it different affairs over the five years? Or one affair over five years?

I heard about this a few months ago and I still can’t believe it. I know it is none of our business but it seems everyone is curious and nobody knows.

Well said John. I totally agree with Steve going into obscurity and healing. The fruit of true repentance will be proven by his sexual purity and full commitment to his wife and His Lord. He won’t even want to step back into touting himself and having a hypocritical, double life. I hope that he will embrace true repentance to be truly transformed to the new life that doesn’t go on deliberately sinning (1 John 3).

I am a huge fan of Steve Fee and Feeband. Obviously, I am deeply saddened by news of his unfaithfulness and subsequent marital and family struggles.

As a Christian, I offer my heartfelt thoughts and prayers to Steve and his family during what must be an extremely difficult time. May the tender love and mercy of our God bring you all peace, comfort and healing. And ultimately may the gifts of forgiveness and everlasting love–that comes through our belief and love of Jesus –grow strong in your hearts and restore your lives.

As a fan of his message and his music, I will patiently await the hopeful day when Steve Fee will return to the stage to share an even deeper insight of God’s love and purpose for our lives. But most of all, I hope that the Lord will help console and counsel Steve and his family at this point in time.

“Glory to God, Forever”…

ps: does anyone know if there is a way to offer our support directly to Steve Fee?

God Bless

Just wanted to say let’s pray for healing and restoration. Satan tries to destroy this world with broken relationships, especially the brokenness we had with God before we accept Jesus. All these songs are God’s songs written by God through a man who made a mistake. Let’s pray that God heals him and his wife and let’s continue singing God’s songs, because He alone is the author and we’ll give Him all the glory for giving the musical abilities and the words that give Him glory!

why has nothing been said still? a 5 year affair is outted in april, and it is dec.
A FIVE YEAR AFFAIR! by a ‘worship leader’
being in love with another woman for 5 years is not a small deal like some of you are acting

Wow! That’s alot of chatter over a man’s personal problems w/his wife. Problems between God and his wife and none of us… and this is why people who are unchurched laugh at the Grace all you Worship leaders like to sing about.

Pray for the man and his marriage and then be silent. Don’t speak unless you can improve upon the silence. Spend your time reflecting on your own failings and your own relationship with God and you will have less time to spend on this guys issues. I know it’s a full time job for me.

The reason the Christian Church hasn’t exploded across the world is because all of you supposed perfect Christians view yourselves as God’s Supreme Court on earth. You are incabable of realizing that you haven’t been through one whole day without sin of some sort. I think some of you actually take pleasure out of this man’s issue just so you can take a moment to make some sort of point about your own perceived holiness.

Are you all going to be so arrogant as to assert that God can’t acheive His Will despite our failings or imperfections? My only boasting is that I have finally realized what a wretched rag and beggar I am. Let me give you all a question to ponder, regardless of this mans current relationship status w/God, if he leads you to worship, is God not still worshipped? During the previous 5yrs while his issues remained unjudged by all of you who don’t sin, was God not still worshipped under his leadership? If you all are waiting for a church leader w/o sin covered by God’s Grace then we just won’t have a church.

God bless you my brother Steve! Hang in there! Since Christ instantly forgave you, your biggest remaining battle will be pulling all the daggers out of your back from folks like Leah. Get back on that stage and make some more music!

Steve…that is nice of you to say to Fee…but I don’t think he needs to get back on stage and play some music. I think that would cause some division in the body as he probably needs time to heal and time to just sit back and reflect on his life and recommitment to his wife.

yea people say christians are hypocrites…and yea they are BUT where is the point from being human and making mistakes TO beicoming a hypocrite????? think about that question when u start finger-pointing at every wrong thing in this world…from getting mad about a worship leader having an affair to getting mad at christians who are pissed off at the situation…

I can’t believe my eyes. Christians are supposed to be supportive and understanding.
EVERYONE HAS SINNED! Don’t you get that! GOD HAS FORGIVEN US!
Why are you acting like hypocrites? I actually feel sorry for Steve! He has to deal with all of us critisizing his actions. Every single one of us has gone out of our mind some time and done something we regret. Can’t you atleast respect him because he had the courage to admit it?!

He is a jerk, how can u sing nightly and be sinning like that every night, good job cheater!

Also I wonder what he was thinking when he wrote “when everything falls apart” like his life has now due to being a hardcore cheater.

If Steve Fee ever does come back it will be more of an Amy Grant style come back. It will take years for the general evangelical public to forgive Steve and then he could have a contemporary Christian song on KLOVE if it still exsist by then.

Either way it’ll take a good decade before any church people would accept him back. Just like a Ted Haggard, Jimmy Swagger, Jim Bakker, Amy Grant, my old pastor, and hundreds of other church leaders in the world.

Steve Fee will never be as influential in his life again as he once was. That’s just the truth.

However, if Fee lives a normal, peaceable life he’ll be much closer to the first in heaven rather than the last.

Church celebraties, huge mega church pastors, and high paid Christian leaders will be at the end of the line when they go from this age to the next.

Jesus would much rather rule the world with a broken, humbled, messed up husband than a rock star worship leader. Worship leaders, awesome mega church pastors, and amazing teachers are good and wonderful for this life but they’ll be worthless in the next.

does anyone know if any of steve fees new songs he has written will be released by anyone his songs are great